Synonyms for Refined (same or very similar meaning)
WordNet sense 1 (showing a high degree of refinement and the assurance that comes from wide social experience):
polished, svelte, urbane
WordNet sense 2 (having or appealing to those having worldly knowledge and refinement and savoir-faire):
sophisticated
WordNet sense 3 (freed from impurities by processing):
processed
WordNet sense 4 (of good upbringing):
well-bred
WordNet sense 5 (excessively delicate or refined):
overrefined
WordNet sense 6 (befitting a woman of good breeding):
ladylike
WordNet sense 7 (befitting a man of good breeding):
gentlemanly
WordNet sense 8 (developed with extreme delicacy and subtlety):
delicate
WordNet sense 9 (having a sophisticated charm):
suave
WordNet sense 10 (marked by refinement in taste and manners):
cultivated, cultured, genteel, polite
WordNet sense 11 (made pure):
sublimate, purified
WordNet sense 12 (free of extraneous elements of any kind):
pure
WordNet sense 13 (suggesting taste, ease, and wealth):
graceful
WordNet sense 14 (characterized by charm, good taste, and generosity of spirit):
gracious
WordNet sense 15 (free from what is tawdry or unbecoming):
neat, tasteful
WordNet sense 16 (refined and tasteful in appearance or behavior or style):
elegant
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