Synonyms for Cross-grained (same or very similar meaning)
WordNet sense 1 (difficult to deal with):
contrarious
WordNet sense 2 (tenaciously unwilling or marked by tenacious unwillingness to yield):
obstinate, stubborn, unregenerate
WordNet sense 3 (of timber; having fibers running irregularly rather than in parallel):
curly-grained, wavy-grained
WordNet sense 4 (not even or uniform as e.g. in shape or texture):
uneven
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