Adjective : an affable and courteous gentleman. ,an affable smile.    From Dictionary.com. 

He was feeling much happier and some of the vague affableness of his youth returned to him.    From Wordnik.com.  [Coroner's Pidgin]

The captain received her as graciously as possible, although he knew at the first glance that his entire stock of affableness could not dispel the threatening clouds.    From Wordnik.com.  [Jess of the Rebel Trail] Reference

With great affableness expressing a willingness to come twice, if it were desired, Mr. Middleton accompanied the personage, as with an air of brooding mystery, the latter led him down the street twenty feet from where they had first stood.    From Wordnik.com.  [The Strange Adventures of Mr. Middleton] Reference

This isn't a problem in and of itself - unless those who become insiders start to be chosen not solely on account of their competence or contribution, but because of their similarities, shared interests, or affableness to the current set of insiders.    From Wordnik.com.  [Progressive Bloggers] Reference